Tuesday, March 21, 2017

Hearing the word “NO”: NVC perspective

Imagine you ask your friend if she is willing to go out for a movie with you on Saturday night, and she immediately retorted, “NO”, will you feel upset and think she is rejecting you or has no genuine interest in you? Or Imagine you ask your dad, to give you a sum of 100$, and he said, “NO,” he can’t, will you feel angry or disappointed, and think your dad does not care you or loves you?

         When we hear the word “NO” from someone, our friends, or families, or neighbors, or teachers, what we often feels are: upset, disappointment, anger, afraid, anxiety, alarm, discouragement, and so on. And we also tend to think that our request or what we asked for is rejected by them or that they don’t like what we asked for, or that they don’t have a genuine concern for what we want.

Wednesday, March 15, 2017

The different ways Rengma Nagas address People

In the olden days, like other Naga tribes, Rengma Nagas solemnly emphasize courteous ways of addressing or calling people. And addressing people with specific titles were a way of showing respect and honoring people in Rengma Naga culture. Importantly, in addition, the different titles use while addressing people, also, denotes  families and clans' relations and differences. Thus, for instance, the way Rengmas addresses their parental family members differs as 'Anyo' (paternal uncle who is younger than your father), 'ada' (paternal uncle who is older than your father), and 'Ami' (maternal uncle).

As a sign of respect and affection, when addressing people, Rengmas don’t (never) call them directly by their given names. Only the titles are used when they address people in their presence, and in their absence, the titles are used along with the given names. For example, if Alo (Rengma male name) addresses/calls his paternal uncle Senlo (Rengma male name), he will address him as ‘Anyo’ (younger paternal uncle); but in the absence of Senlo, if Alo refers to his paternal uncle Senlo, then, he will address him as Anyo Senlo. This pattern of addressing applies to all the other tiles when Rengma people address others.  

Young people who do not know how to properly address others were considered untaught by their parents in the olden days, thus. The practice of addressing people using different titles is still practice and encouraged to these days, and is considered an invaluable cultural identity of the Rengma Naga tribe.

Tuesday, February 28, 2017

What is God like?

What is God like? Our words are not glorious and colossal enough to describe what He is like; and if we are able to describe perfectly what God is like, He is not that. God is what He has revealed Himself to us.

What is God like? Our eyes are not adequate to see what He is like; and if we are able to see completely what He is like, He is not that. God is  what He has shown Himself to us.

What is God like? Our minds are not brilliant  enough to comprehend what He is like; and if we are able to comprehensively comprehend what He is like, He is not that. God is  what He has said He is.

What is God like? Our imaginations are not capable enough to envisage what He is like; and if we are able to envisage the totality of what He is like, He is not that. God is like what He has declared Himself to us.

What is God like? Our hands are not powerful enough to measure what He is like; and if we are able to measure what He is like, He is not that. God is what He has manifested Himself.

What is God like? Our legs are not swift enough to pursue Him to see what He is like; if we are able to pursue him to see what He is like, He is not that. God is  what He has made known Himself.

How and where will I find/know what is God like? In His Word, the Holy Scripture! We can know what God is in the person of Jesus Christ as recorded in the Holy Scripture.

“The Son is the radiance of God’s glory and the exact representation of His being, sustaining all things by His powerful Word. After He had provided purification for sins, He sat down at the right hand of the Majesty in Heaven.” (Hebrews 1:3)

Tuesday, February 21, 2017

The limits of human knowledge

1.      Human beings are finite creatures. Finite creatures can stand only in finite existence. And finite creatures can see things only from a finite standpoint.
2.      Human finitude also means that acquiring knowledge is developmental. It starts from zero, initial conception, and increase over time through experiences and studies.
3.      Mistakes in our investigation are the possibility, which are even problematic, as our understandings can be obscured by the limitations of our motive, methods, and sources.
4.      Finally, our greatest hindrance is due to the fact that our minds and hearts are distorted in some/many ways. There is resistance, rebellion, pride, etc. within our minds and hearts, the effect of disobedience to God our creator, the effect of sin.
5.      Therefore, as a result of these limitations, no human can know everything. The limits of human knowledge are evident. The absolute, unsurpassable, comprehensive, and perfect knowledge about the reality is not possible for finite human beings. 

""Humility is a virtue prerequisite for gaining understanding"

** Eric L. Johnson, Psychology and Christianity. 292-295.    

Wednesday, February 15, 2017

Do You Exercise Like a Nonbeliever?

God made us to move, and to do so vigorously. And he wired our brains to reward and reinforce it with chemicals called “endorphins.” Exercise makes happier humans.
Regular human movement has been assumed throughout history, but the innovations and seeming progress of modern life have made a sedentary lifestyle more normal than ever before. We’ve never needed to state the obvious about exercise as much as we do today. 

Countless unbelievers experience and consciously enjoy the gift of exercise, but they do not adore Jesus or have the Holy Spirit. Should there be anything distinct about how a Christian exercises? How do we experience God’s natural gift of exercise in such a way that we benefit spiritually?

What Happens When Love Fails or Breaks Through?

This presentation not only answers the above question, but provides a unique perspective into the need for reconciling strained relationships.  Three conclusions should become crystal clear: (1) we need each another; (2) having a secure and loving relationship with another person is absolutely essential to our physical, emotional, and psychological well-being; (3) when conflict emerges and bonds of connection begin to fray, particularly in marriage, reconciliation is the one process that is most oriented to result in relational health and harmony.

The following presentation is an eye-opening journey into the human experience at different stages of development, both good and bad.  This page provides true stories of when love fails.  The link provided at the end of each section sends you to another page that provides positive stories of  What Happens When Love Breaks Through  in similar circumstances.  Understanding the necessity of love in our lives provides an excellent foundation for understanding the overall framework of Dr. Newberger's practice.


In the 13th century, the German king, Frederick II, was curious to learn what language babies would speak if no one spoke to them.  The king wondered whether they would come to speak Greek, Latin, Hebrew, Arabic, or perhaps the dialect of their biological parents if the infants were left on their own.  To find out, a select group of infants were chosen.  The king ordered the foster mother and nurses who were to care for these tots to be absolutely silent.  "Nurse them, clean them, bath them, but don't coo or speak to them," was his command.  In the end, the experiment was a dismal failure.  Not only did the children fail to develop any language skills.  They all died.  A contemporary of the king offered this analysis.  "They could not live without the petting and the joyful faces and loving words of their foster mothers." 

Talking about Jesus

I determined not to know anything among you except Jesus Christ and Him crucified. —1 Corinthians 2:2

Former major league baseball player Tony Graffanino tells of an ongoing ministry effort in a European country. Each year his organization holds a week-long baseball camp. During this week they also offer a daily Bible study. In past years, the leader tried to find reasoned ways to convince the campers that God exists so they would place their faith in Him. After about 13 years, they had seen only 3 people decide to follow Jesus.

Then they changed their approach, says Graffanino. Instead of “trying to present facts, or winning arguments for a debate,” they simply talked about “the amazing life and teachings of Jesus.” As a result, more campers came to listen, and more chose to follow Him.
The apostle Paul said that when we tell others about the gospel of Jesus Christ, we should set “forth the truth plainly. . . . We do not preach ourselves,” he said, “but Jesus Christ as Lord” (2 Cor. 4:2,5 niv). This was Paul’s standard for evangelism: “I determined not to know anything among you except Jesus Christ and Him crucified” (1 Cor. 2:2).

We should be knowledgeable about the Bible and about the reasons for our belief, and sometimes we need to explain those reasons. But the most compelling and effective story we can tell puts Christ in the center.

Father God, please use me in the lives of others.
Remind me to talk about who Jesus is and His life
and teachings. And not to be dragged into debates,
but to share Jesus’ amazing life.


Friday, December 16, 2016


We've seen that sloppy or misleading use of ordinary language can seriously limit our ability to create and communicate correct reasoning. As philosopher John Locke pointed out three centuries ago, the achievement of human knowledge is often hampered by the use of words without fixed signification. Needless controversy is sometimes produced and perpetuated by an unacknowledged ambiguity in the application of key terms. We can distinguish disputes of three sorts:

Genuine disputes involve disagreement about whether or not some specific proposition is true. Since the people engaged in a genuine dispute agree on the meaning of the words by means of which they convey their respective positions, each of them can propose and assess logical arguments that might eventually lead to a resolution of their differences.
Merely verbal disputes, on the other hand, arise entirely from ambiguities in the language used to express the positions of the disputants. A verbal dispute disappears entirely once the people involved arrive at an agreement on the meaning of their terms, since doing so reveals their underlying agreement in belief.
Apparently verbal but really genuine disputes can also occur, of course. In cases of this sort, the resolution of every ambiguity only reveals an underlying genuine dispute. Once that's been discovered, it can be addressed fruitfully by appropriate methods of reasoning.

We can save a lot of time, sharpen our reasoning abilities, and communicate with each other more effectively if we watch for disagreements about the meaning of words and try to resolve them whenever we can.

Wednesday, December 7, 2016

Religious Taking the Place of Spiritual Reality

Seven (Possible) Substitutions

1.      Theology takes (possibly can) the place of Revelation. Theology is human’s reasoning that makes, relies, and infers on the Scripture, but it is not a direct revelation.
2.      Education takes (possibly can) the place of Character building. Notice that Jesus never just taught people, they had to follow Him. In order words, it wasn’t just intellectual knowledge, but it was the life style. It is very dangerous to train people intellectually and not deal with their character. 
      (The Scripture says, the carnal mind is enmity against God. When you are educating a carnal mind, you are educating an enemy of God? And what you get at the end is an educated enemy of God. Majority of the seminary today are educating the enemies of God. The main enemies are the products of the seminaries (e.g. Bard D Erdman).
3.      Psychology is (possibly can) substituted for discernment. Discernment is spiritual (gift).
4.      Program is (possibly can) substituted for supernatural directions, the leading of the Holy Spirit.
5.      Eloquence is (possibly can) substituted for supernatural power.
6.      Reasoning is (possibly can) substituted for the work of Faith.
7.      Laws take (substitute, possibly can) the place of love. If you meet someone who is very legalistic, you might not found them very loving person. Law and love is Christian life tends to compete with one another- people who are busy keeping and enforcing laws/rules are often remarkably unloving people (E.g. in the days of Jesus, the Pharisees were legalistic, and not really the loving people).

#Derek Prince #Be on GUARD!

Wednesday, October 19, 2016


     Let us hear from the mouth of King Solomon, known in the Bible as the wisest man who walked on the earth, “I know that there is nothing better than for men/women to be happy and do well while they live” (Ecclesiastes 3:12). To be happy is to feel or show a state of being satisfied, content, and cheerful. Happiness, as I see it in our present context, comes at least in three levels or kinds. The first kind, I call it as the sublime happiness. This is a kind of happiness reflecting eternity, having the element of permanency and it cannot be wiped away easily even if bad things happen in our life. The second kind of happiness is what I call the perceptual happiness. Perceptual happiness comes in relating to our ability to interpret positively being aware of things happening around us. And the third kind I shall call it the peripheral happiness, which is when something good happens to us from outside or by undertaking certain acts that make one happy. In this article, I will discuss these three kinds/levels of happiness and suggest that if they are understood correctly and taken in order, happiness, as the wise Solomon said, is indeed the best thing a person can have and must pursue in this life.

We shall begin with peripheral happiness, as it seems to be the optimal and first choice for many, then settles with the sublime happiness that I am persuaded is where the second and third kind of happiness derive their ultimate purpose and meaning.

Friday, October 7, 2016

Disciple of Jesus

“A disciple may be very green and very imperfect. What characterizes the disciple is not the level of their perfection. What characterizes a disciple is that they are learning. That they are progressing. And before very long, they are very different in how they behave, because their inner being has been transformed.”
In being a disciple of Jesus, there are three areas that we need to think about:
1.      Just learning to do the things that Jesus said (Don’t get legalistic about this. It’s not a matter of what doing what Jesus said, but it’s a matter of becoming the kind of person who would naturally do them). The things that Jesus explicitly said to do are guidelines, and we need to have in mind becoming the kind of person who does that.
2.      How to live in the areas where there is no explicit command? Most of the things we do, Jesus did said about that in the Bible, for example Jesus didn’t say anything about automobile. What kind you drive, how you drive, that sort of thing. But there is still there is a way to do that. This is a combination of learning how to do the things he explicitly talked about, but also how to do stuff that we have to have guidance with. And we have to be spoken about. And here we have to learn to hear the voice of Christ, to listen for it, to learn to follow. And this might involve everything… everyone needs to listen and learn to do the particular kind of work they do with Jesus at their side and to hear his Prompting and His directions, so that life as a whole is lived in the Kingdom and not just the explicitly religious kind of things, or the moral commandments only. This includes areas of prudence as well as morality. What is the wise thing to do? Colossians 3:16- “Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom. Speaking and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with Grace in your heart unto the Lord.” This is the whole life kind of-the wisdom of Christ is what we need here. (Business decisions, issues about families, finances, politics, everything… all kind of concern of our ordinary life that we might not think about).
3.      How to act with power in the Kingdom: Prayer and giving are the two baby steps in learning Kingdom life. Prayer and giving are the two ways that we take tiny steps for learning how to act with the power of God in the Kingdom. This will cover everything from teaching Sunday School to a little child and talking to them about Jesus, about life and heaven… you talk to a little child, you counting on God to do a work there. If it’s leading a big meeting or writing a book, or if its starting a business, and so on. It’s all the same area. Cause we want to be acting in the power of God #Dallas Willard# The Divine Conspirarcy. 

Four Gospel Presentations Today

1.      The standardly version of the gospel: The Gospel is entirely about forgiveness. And the good news is that the beating you deserve is taken by someone else. And if you believe that it has, then you won’t get that beating. Your sins will be forgiven, and you will be in heaven because they won’t find any reason to keep you out. If you believe that Jesus suffered your sin penalty.  
#The standardly version of the gospel that you will hear among evangelical and conservative, not to mention fundamentalist Churches (You listen to the main people on TV who have nationwide programs, presenting the gospel).
2.      The Gospel of the left: That Jesus basically died to liberate the oppressed and you can stand with Jesus in the Battle (And you will hear that preached, and ordinarily people who take this, don’t say much of anything about forgiveness). The irony is that people in the first group (Gospel 1) do more than the second group (Gospel 2).
3.      The sacramental Churches Gospel: The Gospel that huge numbers of people here, they don’t really think much about these other issues at all. And that is just, do what your Church says, and it will see to it that you are received by God. For short, take care of your Church; it will take care of you. The sacramental Churches, so called high churches often tend more in terms of that. You do the things that Church says, in some cases beginning with the birth and ending with death. You have rituals that are said, and you can be sure that you are okay.
(This has actually looking more to heaven when you die; this has more in common with first group than it does with second, though there are a lot of interesting combinations that you can make).
4.      Trust Him and Be His Disciple: Put your confidence in Jesus and live with him as His disciple now in the present Kingdom of God. So what is the Gospel? The Gospel is you can trust Jesus. That’s it! That’s the simplest form of the Gospel, but not something he said about social evils, not something he did to secure your forgiveness. That’s all in there, but those are not the Gospel. The Gospel is Jesus. His availability. Put your confidence in Him. Come under the rule of God. God at work in your life. (All of us have this in bits and pieces at least. But there is a coherent whole here, of finding our life in the Kingdom of God. Matthew 4:7; Matthew 6:33; Romans 8:1). The Gospel is the good news that we can live now in teh Kingdom of God through faith in Jesus Christ. Faith in Jesus Christ means i have confidence in Him for everything. I want to be as close to Him as possible, and learn from Him everything i can. I want to believe, and i do believe, that all His commandments are for my benefit. So anything he tells mes to do is for my good, and i will be much better off when i do it.
***Regeneration first, then justification, then sanctification, and glorification.  

The first three presentations of the Gospels are all about sin management. What are you going to do about sin? They’re not gospels of regeneration and new life. New life now, in the present Kingdom of God, the present Kingdom of the heavens under the living Lord Jesus Christ. See, it’s often presented as somehow, if we have never sinned, we have no use for God. No use for Christ. They present Gospel as to free us from guilt. Grace is only for guilt. Think of yourself now in presenting yourself to the World- and we will end up there talking about that, and presenting Christ to the World- is it primarily or only a problem of what to do what to do about sin? Those are the gospels of sin management, and the first three Gospel presentations, basically turn on that. #Dallas Willard#The Divine Conspiracy: The Kingdom Salvation (It is the Forth way of Gospel presentaion that is the complete Gospel).